Am I doing the right thing? Am I doing enough? Am I a good-enough
Am I doing enough? Am I a good-enough
Am I a good-enough mum? Or, wait, am I a good mum?
Let me start off by saying the obvious – being a mom is the toughest and the most rewarding job ever! I repeat, e.v.e.r. It doesn’t matter if you are a new mom or an experienced mom, or a working mom or a stay-at-home mom. The categories don’t matter, it is just one of the toughest jobs you will ever do but it is one of the most rewarding at the same time. It sounds pretty cliché but if you are a parent, you know every single part of that is true as true can be. Right? From the things we do to the things we don’t, its all a big mess – a chaotic one at that. I am not trying to demonize motherhood or glorify the challenges here, I am just being candid about how it feels on some days and this post is about “those days”. I don’t want to tell you how to deal with it because honestly, I have no idea. I don’t know your life. I don’t know the things you have going on right now. My simple policy is that if you got through today, without breaking down, YOU ma’am, are my hero! As simple as that.
What I do want to do is to tell you, ‘stop feeling guilty’ and ‘stop feeling sorry for yourself’.
I won’t get into the details of how or what, and why but I feel like once in a while, every mom goes on a guilt trip, a.k.a mom guilt. Here are some things that happen once-in-awhile (or may be often) you should stop feeling guilty about:
1. Getting some ‘me-time’ or ‘alone time’
2. Not “bouncing back” soon enough
3. Going back to work
4. Not being able to work out
5. Wearing makeup
6. Dressing up
8. Having a drink or two
9. Snoozing that alarm
10. Not having a to-do list
11. Over-clipping your baby’s nails sometimes by mistake
12. Not spending too much time with your kids
13. Feeding store-bought baby food instead of making your own
14. Going out with friends or having a social life
15. Reconnecting with yourself and not just being a mom, all the time
Sometimes, things happen. You’ve got to give yourself a break. You need to know and believe that You are not alone. You are doing the best you can. I know its easy said than done but trust this fellow-mumsy of yours, I have been there, each of the above guilt-trips fully lived and experienced. I learned that if I don’t take care of myself first, I will not be able to take care of my son at all. I wont be good company and that’s the last thing I want. End of the day, it comes down to if we (not just he, I mean, all of us, as a family) had a good day or not – how much I made him laugh, how he enjoyed my company, how happy he is, how independent and strong he is getting, and the rest is figureout-ble.
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